Wednesday, June 15, 2005

Fate & coincidence

Fate is the invisible track we move in through out our lives, As it is invisible we don’t see it but we move along thinking we are in control as long as we understand the how & why according to our limited insight .when something we don’t understand happens we get puzzled asking our selves why & how? ,even we may feel angry, frustrated & depressed “why me ?” one thing is for sure there is no such thing as coincidence , it’s only a trial of self deceive .It is always fate, have Faith & believe in fate & destiny ,everything happens for a reason even though we might not understand it in the time being or even never will .but be sure there is a very good reason , For God is always there for us. Me writing this you reading it ,we being friends everything happens for a reason .

Life “part five”

One of the unique relations is the parent child relationship. This relation is so vital & God has honored this relationship very highly .Your parents give without waiting to take, will give u all they can ,will always love you no matter who you are , they’ll do the impossible for your sake .shockingly this relationship has been corrupted . we are happy as long as we take but when we don’t get what we want we start ………….,Parents have turned to be giving machines to some people & when they don’t need them they become a burden !!!!!!!!!
& of course what goes around comes around ,
so let us all try to cherish our parents our families . Try to payback just a little of what they gave us & most important give them the respect they deserve & the love they’ve earned .

forget & to forgive

There is a big difference between to forget & to forgive ;
To forget is like covering up a memory or burying it deep but simply a small incidence may uncover & release all the pain & bitterness ,you may live the whole incidence again
To forgive is to be able to let go ,to accept ,to be frank with thy self but with out forgetting ,u remember it but u accept & live with it & gradually it fades away & no matter what happens all the pain & bitterness disappears maybe even replaced by understanding & a sense of self acceptance & inner peace .so Always try to forgive before you try to forget for your own sake not for anyone else .


Today I was playing around in my comp files when I came a long a simple program I’ve forgotten all about ,it is a very simple program ;entering your birth date & it gives you your age in years months, days, hours, minutes & seconds .so I just did & wooow …………I was amazed all theses years have gone ,a lot of time really a lot, a life time, some people didn’t live to reach this age . Its amazing how time passes ,I feel it was just a week ago when I was playing as a child & it feels it was yesterday when I was hanging out with my friends in my school yrs .my college years seems as if they don’t exist at all. The effort, the exhaustion even the pain doesn’t exist . all theses years minimized to a small fraction
I started thinking I’ve always thought of myself as still young but should I reconsider this fact, noticing the fact I don’t know how much I have left , the clock is ticking just imagine it; a clock ticking beside you & each tick means you’ve got one second less to live ,it’s thee final countdown .Time flows by spontaneously unnoticed but we must have in mind that we should always remember to learn from the past , look towards the future, see life as a line extending between 2 points a start & an end, we should look deep beyond z surface to realize the mere truth of our existence ,foresee life then it's extension as afterlife .& the most important fact;
time is your most unique & valuable capital, so don’t waste it in trivialities & invest it well !!!!!!

Thursday, June 09, 2005

Who Am I ?

A difficult question to answer because I’m not really not sure well I’m an ordinary guy just starting my practical life with a lot of expectations & hopes .
I’m not an artist & I’m not talented & I’m not wise enough I’m a normal human being ,was born someday & going to die someday. life is too short & it is frustrating ,but I live it enjoying the beautiful moments & try to never give up when it is really dark . trying to love as much as I can & hate as less as I can . I may be Lonely although I’m not alone .
I’ve always been wondering what really lies beyond ,am I good enough to face it ,what are my limits whether I’m a talker or a doer ,am I walking in the right path or in the wrong one , am I a good friend or an unworthy one , I really wonder who am I ?

Life “part four”

Relations, relations ,why are they important? if u think of it & you have imagination you will notice we are all connected someway or the other in a network of relations like a sphere each of us is surrounded with a sphere with us in the center with other spheres dissecting it at different levels whether vertical or horizontal or may be just tangent or not even touching each other .theses spheres are always in a continuous state of change whether in size, direction or speed we may be moving parallel to each other or towards or away from each other some spheres are so solid while others are too fragile that a minor collision may throw it out of its way towards nowhere ,the more close we are & the more the number of spheres that are connected together the solider we are & vice versa the less the number & the furthest the distance the weaker we are just as we learnt in physics about the solid, fluid & gaseous states of matter. The quote “together we stand , divided we fall” really applies here.

Life “part three”

Who is my soul mate? An everlasting question we all are seeking our soul mates & if we found them we will ask ourselves is he really my soul mate ? a real controversy from the beginning of time ,some try seeking them by star signs saying that a *** and a ***** can get along but a *** & a **** can’t .some are seeking the looks others are seeking the attitude while others are seeking the mind but nobody is sure about it a lot of mismatching & sometime it works. some have been waiting all their lives while others settle down for what they find. A real dilemma, specially that a lot of factors play a role; financial, our cultural backgrounds, the presumed social levels ! , our families, our friends & a lot more one fact should be stated just as a guide line there is never never a perfect soul mate there are always defects & that’s where love gets in to fill in the gaps to melt the two souls in one mould . I wonder if love mentioned in these quotes exists

-Love is not gazing at each other but looking together in the same direction.

-The love we give away is the only love we keep

-A house is made of walls & beams ; a home is built with love & dreams

-To give & not count the cost-this is what love is all about

-Let us not love in word but in deed and in truth

-Marriage does not fail ;people fail. All that marriage does is show people up

-The best proof of love is trust

-To love someone means to see him as God intended him .

-Stop looking for love; start being lovable

-Marriage endures when married couples love many things together, not merely each other.

-Love keeps no record of wrongs.

-Choose your love, and then love your choice.

-Respect is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which your spouse is unique.

-Brides and pregnant ladies are often radiantly beautiful, and happiness, not cosmetics is the cause.

-Anyone can love a rose, but it takes a great heart to love a leaf,

-One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is 'love'.

-Marriage is loving-together, not just living together.

-In marriage, love must be there, but friendship refines love into a vital partnership, and that's what makes a good marriage great

-Most important rule of marriage: toward both your spouse and yourself, behave only in ways that enhance your self-worth, dignity and integrity

-You don't love your wife for what she says but love what she says because you love her.

-Never allow moments of inconsiderateness overwhelm a lifetime of consideration.

-The successful marriage is not one in which there are no fights, but one in which fights are turned into opportunities for greater honesty and understanding

-Chains do not hold a marriage together ,It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads, which sew people together through the years

-You don't marry one person; you marry three - the person you think they are, the person they are, and the person they are going to be as the result of being married to you.

-There's no way to win against your spouse, You both win or you both lose

-Happy couples make as many mistakes as unhappy couples. The difference is that happy couples admit them, laugh at them and learn from them. That is how they become happy couples.

-In marriage relations,” Maybe you 're right" is as powerful as the famous "I love you."

-A successful marriage requires falling in love many times with the same person .

-love isn’t measured by how many times you touch each other but how many times you reach each other .

-As we abandon our attempts to change our mate and instead focus on ourselves , changes surprisingly and predictably occur in the marriage .

-No couple is a perfect fit . So learn to respect differences & overlook rough spots .Recognize that your differences are not due to bad faith or lack of respect or interest .

-In every marriage more than a month old there are grounds for divorce . The trick is to find grounds for marriage .

-The successful marriage is not one in which there are no fights , but one in which fights are turned into opportunities for greater honesty and understanding .

-Once couples realize that they can’t be married and always be right , the rest is easy .

-We’re all fundamentally alone in this life, but friendship enriches marriage by causing us to feel accepted, understood & loved.

-Loving someone doesn't mean your goals are always identical. But if you want something, your mate wants it for you too.

-When spouses don t tell each other how they feel, it is as if there is an elephant in the room that never gets talked about.

-Marriage endures when married couples love many things together, not merely each other.

-A good marriage is like a good investment fund. You put everything you have into it during your productive life, and over the years it turns from silver to gold to platinum.

-Love is found by those who can live with human nature as it is. When you walk on the beach to watch the sunset you do not call out, "A little S more orange, please."

-The secret of being loved, and the secret of being lovely, is being unselfish .

-Being married doesn’t mean you’re glued to each other . One of the wonderful things about love is that it binds without crippling .

-Don’t critize your wife’s judgment ; See whom she married !

-love is not destroyed by a single failure , or won by a single caress. It is a lifetime venture in which we are always learning, discovering and growing.

-let there be spaces in your togetherness .

-be courteous, not only to strangers and guests, but also to your spouse .

-For a good married life, remain near enough to keep each other warm and far enough apart-about a finger’s breadth- for breathing room .

-A marriage can easily rust from distrust .

-Do not expect your mat to change. Put yourself in his or her shoes. Would you want to be overhauled or expect your mate to love you as you are?

-To love someone is to be the only one to see a miracle invisible to others .
-Do not think everything is o.k. with your marriage . ity is either getting better or going down. Remain alert.

-If two people let a single instanct wedge itself between them , it grows into a month, a year and, it becomes too late.

-Variety is the spice of life, but it is better to have one spicy wife.

-Treasure each other in the recognition that you do not know how long you shall have each other .

-If you have love in your heart ,you will always have something to give .

-A good marriage is like the tide. No matter how long it is out , you know it will come back to you.

-Marriage is not the cause of divorce. It is forgetting what marriage means that cause divorce .

-Silence ,secretiveness and sudden outbursts may be signs of decaying relationship.

-Love doesn’t make the world go around but it makes the ride worthwhile .

-Happy couples make many mistakes as unhappy couples. The difference is that happy couples admit them, laugh at them and learn from them. That is how they become happy couples .

-When love and skill work together expect a master piece .

Life “part two”

So life is about relationships , & relationships are about connections which goes both way . one of the most important relationships is your relationship with God .Did u ever think about this relationship?, Is it existing ? Is it good or bad ? do u feel connected some people say they are believers but they only say it they do not feel it, have you ever felt like God is watching you ? Did you stop doing something wrong because you remembered that God is watching you ? Did you really feel that God cares about you ?Do you really love God more than everything even yourself ? Do you really feel it in your heart ? Have you ever cried for something you said or done then you realized that it was wrong ? questions & much more you must think about it & answer it frankly . we all feel lonely sometimes but if we are really connected we never will . Dr Mustafa Mahmoud in one of his books talked about this connection stating that it is the love as pure as it can be, the love to where we belong, to the beginning , the yearning of the soul to its creator .

Your relationship with yourself is a very critical one . It is a very complex relationship because it needs fine balance . a personality consists of a lot of needs, a lot of restrictions, a lot of dreams, a lot of fears, a lot of beliefs, desire, rage, faith & love all mingled together in different ratios that differ from person to person & from time to time always liable to change as a person moves along in the stream of life , a very unique equation which makes each one of us unique ,what really counts is our ability to keep z balance & adapt to the changes that surround us ex; we need to love ourselves but not too much to z extent of selfishness & not too little to z extent of low self esteem, without being frank to ourselves, about who we really are ; we wont find our inner peace, to know what we really want ? what we can really do? what do we want in life ? Be connected to yourself , as blueberry said “live life to learn about yourself” to know thy self.

Life “part one”

I’ve been thinking about life; it is really strange, if u stand back & watch you’ll be amazed how things are happening, how some people are living in such fatal trivialities will others are really so gloomy taking more burden than they can carry ,others are living it day by day no plans just going along the stream while others are actually are really doers, they plan ahead, they take decisions, state their opinions, really making a difference & others & other. some people tend to live alone while others want to live in groups when u ask someone what does he want from life he usually mentions items like; a good job , a good house , a suitable husband or wife , a lot of money , being famous .
Rarely you may hear things like living happily , being in good health, going to heaven freeing the occupied lands , be from those who’ll bring back the long lost glory of our Islamic nation & so on .
A third group of people may answer; a good meal a good night sleep or even they may say nothing at all .
The first group of answers are materialistic & short termed .The second group of answers tend to be more long termed & idealistic .The third group of answers are either from satisfaction or indifference , but in my opinion life is all about relationships; your relationship with
God The Almighty , your relationship with yourself , your relationship with your family, friends, spouse, colleges & any other people you may meet in your life its is the true key to everything “relationships”